Every problem we experience is a frustration.
We are angry or sad about something, someone or even ourselves because it is not the way we want it to be. Because we are not experiencing what we want, we are frustrated.
The questions we can ask ourselves are; Why do we want things, people or ourselves to be a certain way in the first place? Why, at certain times and instances, is it so important that the world , people or ourselves demonstrate what we want or believe to be the best, not only for us, but for others or sometimes even for the whole world?
Really, why is getting the experience we want so important to us?
Because our lives depend on it. Literally.
At least we think our lives depend on it.
First , let us clarify that our “life” is who we think we are. However, there is a difference between who we think we are and who we really are.
We believe we are what is called the ego. The ego is not a bad thing; it is merely the perception of ourselves as individuals with certain attributes, identifications, belief systems and preferences.
For example our ego would say; I am a female with a name and an age. I do a certain task for a living, I have a certain kind of family and I believe in a certain way of living. I have a certain definition of what is right and wrong.
This would be an ego or an identity of who we think we are in the world.
Who we really are is beyond this. Who we really are is the energy that animates our bodies in this physical world. Many people understand this as spirit, however, what might seem more radical is this:
The energy that animates us does not have an identity or an ego. It is pure, creative, love energy that is unidentified and shared by every living thing. In order words, it is not a “you” or a “me” or a “him or a “her”. It is non-specific, non-identifiable nothing or another way to look at it is that it is everything. It is all possibility, completely unlimited, shared energy by everyone.
Looking at who we really are in this way, poses a HUGE threat to our ego and identity. Think about this; if we are not who we think we are as individuals, but really are at our core, one loving energy that is having millions of what is perceived to be individual experiences, then the ego is really nothing. It is purely a made up concept.
Being nothing or having a shared identity with everyone, is death to the ego’s thought process of who it thinks it is. After all, the ego is a GIANT mix of separate beliefs, preferences and identities that it has formed over time and experience. The ego has a HUGE investment in itself. Being told it is nothing, or anything or everything is a complete blow to its structure of a separate, unique self.
This is the root of all our frustrations and is why it is so important for us, or really for our egos, to have things, people and ourselves act and be the way we want.
When our egos define how and what we want our world to be like, what it is really doing is drawing the line in the sand between ourselves and everything else. It is creating individuality and complete separateness. It does this for one express purpose, to keep the illusion of our ego identity alive and well.
For our egos to admit that we are really “nothing” or “everything”, depending on how we want to look at it, and part of a larger loving entity rather than an individual self, is psychological suicide in the mind of the ego. Our ego will forcefully resist this idea because its life and existence truly do depend on it.
We can continue to play this ego game of mistaken identity and have some wins and some losses in the eyes of our ego over the course of our lifetimes, or we can wake up from this vicious cycle that keeps us imprisoned as something smaller and separate rather than realize the shared magnificence of who we truly really are.
Once we choose to wake up and see this, nothing will frustrate us anymore because we will not demand that anything or anyone including ourselves be a certain way. We will understand from our Higher Self:
1. That our True Identity is everything or nothing, which includes all possibilities and is limitless.
2. That what goes on here in this physical universe is a silly game to keep alive a false ego idea of who we are.
Today, let us choose to live our Higher Self. Let us choose to let go of identifying with the ego and allowing it to run our lives and color our perceptions of ourselves and the world.
Today, let us choose to be who we really are and laugh upon the silliness in this world.
Today, when we feel frustrated because life is not the way we want it to be, let us not invest any more energy in believing we are an ego which needs to have its demands met in order to convince ourselves that we exist as separate beings as a means to win and survive beyond the immediate drama.
Instead, let us choose today to be safe to let go and let the world play its silly game while we rest in our Higher Self, our True Identity, which sees the truth and just smiles, content to know that we have excused ourselves from the game and are happily resting on the sideline.