Then look directly at it.
Choosing to look directly at what is occurring inside of us is the beginning of being responsible for the experience of our lives. Accepting this responsibility is the key to freeing ourselves from the blocks that keep our vision limited and unable to see all the possibilities available to us in any given moment that could take our lives in a new direction.
How do we do this with kindness and compassion so that we do not inadvertently create a whole new drama of guilt and blame on ourselves?
First we must recognize that by looking at what is going on within us means to look at the process of our mind, more than looking at the details of what was thought, said or done.
However, to get started, we will break down the situation, thoughts and feelings but they are just clues to the hidden beliefs below that determine how we are processing information. It is the hidden beliefs we want to expose so we can question and clarify if this is something we want to continue to believe.
When we look at the process of our mind, something unusual may happen. We will experience the realization that we are not our mind. By looking at how our mind works, we have the experience of being separate from our mind as we watch what it does. This a positive step as it allows us to be kind to our true selves, the ones watching the mind, so we do not mistakenly fall into the trap of hating, blaming or hurting our true selves for what we might find hidden in our unconscious mind.
If we do this type of work often enough, it will soon become clear that our true self was always separate from our mind but we could not know it as we have been unknowingly hypnotized by our mind. Our mind has kept us so busy with its arbitrarily created beliefs from all our experiences, that we may never have actually had the opportunity to know and experience our true selves.
When we do get to have this experience, it shatters all other experiences of who we thought we were and opens a new doorway to what is possible for us.
Here is a framework for looking within ourselves whenever any irritation or annoyance presents itself to investigate and eventually dissolve it. As we know, these moments are our opportunities to remove the hidden blocks that have kept us stuck in a limited reality of repeated patterns that are counterproductive towards the life we desire.
When we really want to free ourselves from these limitations, we will be motivated to do the work of inward focus and responsibility.
There are three parts to the investigation: Know, Connect, Choose.
- Trigger and Emotion Resonated:
- My Reality of the Situation (vs. Actuality)
- My Desire/Want (for this trigger, stated as what I do want, not what I don’t want)
- My Secret Payoff: (the juice or energy I get from having this desire frustrated over and over)
- My Hidden Belief: (about myself or the world that keeps me in this desire/frustration cycle)
Connect To God/Love/Divine:
- Focus on a mind picture of love unrelated to the above. Wait for a physical change, (smile, warmth, tingling in body, etc.); accept this as God/Love/Divine being awakened in you.
- Ask to have the emotions dissolved.
- Release Desire.
- Release Secret Payoff and corresponding Hidden Belief.
Choose New Belief:
- I see things differently now and with clear intention, I choose to believe:
- The payoff for this new belief is:
Using the story of “selfish people make me angry” from two blog posts ago, we will use this framework to investigate how our mind processes what we perceive, reinforces hidden beliefs and keeps our true selves a prisoner of our mind and then turn it around with intelligent, responsible choice.
Until then and with much compassion,