Only one person is responsible.
That one person is you. And I. And every other person on the planet.
Through choice, we are each responsible for the quality, content and expression of our lives regardless of our genetics, history, situations, circumstances or culture we find ourselves immersed in.
This thought might seem outlandish to some who will point to those born in poverty, with physical disability or living under a repressive regime who cannot possibly be responsible for what happens in their lives because they have no control over these situations.
Others may actually agree at first glance. But do you really? Can you say you are responsible for the person who cut you off on the road, the break up of your relationship, the job you lost or the friend who betrayed you?
Through the choices we make, each of us is responsible for the quality of our lives. This in turn affects the quantity of the choices we are able to recognize as options available to us in any one moment. Being responsible for the quality of our life does not mean we are at fault, in the sense that there is something wrong with the choices we have made. It means we acknowledge that we alone do the choosing.
That acknowledgement is the seed of our power to choose a higher quality life.
Even if we say we were forced to choose something that we rather not have chosen, the truth remains that we did choose it. We may say that we had no other alternative but what we most likely mean is that we had no other alternative we liked better, had the confidence to choose or the vision to see.
So what does this mean? Two things and both are based on choice.
1. It means that regardless of what we have been told, well meaning as it may have been, we have the ability to be in complete control of our lives no matter what the situation, through choice. As a matter of fact human beings have already been controlling the outcome of their lives with choice throughout history! The problem is most are not satisfied with the lives they have created which leads to point number two:
2. Many already believe they do have control over their lives through choice but are wondering why they continually struggle to live the life they say they want. The key question becomes, where are you focused? Many of us have been taught that choice is about continually changing or controlling what is around us until it matches the picture of what we want our lives to look like.
Choice. What is it? Do we really have one? How do we choose what we really want?
All subjects for the next blog.